no, i'm not breaking up with YOU guys...i could never quit you.
this is about something harder than that...breaking up with a friend.
i can't remember if i mentioned this on the blog before....but when i was in high school, i had a group of 3 close friends. 2 of us had been best friends since kindergarten (when that label is easy to give, and tends to stick around for a LOOOOOONG time), and the other 2 girls had been the same way since 2nd grade. the 4 of us were together all the time. when we went to college...2 of us lived together, and the other 2 went to school together back home.
we've all been in each other's weddings. at each other's birthdays...basically, the same since high school.
only for the last 2 years or so...one girl and her husband have been blowing us off. not showing up for planned events. choosing other friends first. so we stopped inviting them. because when they DID show up...it was like they were doing us a favor. or they'd only ever talk about themselves...NEVER asking about any of our lives. and that ish isn't cool.
so i've been fine with writing off my former best friend as a friendship that just ran its course. it happens. and i was cool with it.
but now? now she's bored at home with an 8 month old daguther for the summer...and she's been hounding me about doing something.
except she only commented on facebook when my father was in the hospital, and didn't you know....actually check back.
and she didn't check on me after i found out AT HER HOUSE that i was hpv-positive.
and there are loads of other little things that add up to a pretty big thing that i don't think we should be friends anymore.
EXCEPT NOW I DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL HER.
because she may be the least self-aware person i've ever met. and an in-person convo would quickly turn into all the things I'VE done or someone else has done and excuses excuses excuses.
so...can you break up with someone via email? because i think that's my only option that doesn't involve continuing to ignore it and hope it all goes away?
being a grown-up is hard. anyone else have some breakup advice??